I have met a lot of people in my life who were so unhappy with their life so that they had to transfer their negativity to other people. I also was one of them for a short time, I was very unhappy with my life and because of that I felt like I had no energy for anything and really suffered because my life didn’t turn out how it should be. But when I started to live alone, I had a lot of time to think about myself and my life and I wanted to change it so bad and I did! These are tips based on my own experiences and also generally tips from lifestyle coaches, so it is just a little reminder for you to live your life as you want:
I. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHER PEOPLE
This is one of the first things you should learn. If you are always looking other people’s success or life, you will never be happy, because you are wasting your time with looking at other people’s life instead of working on your own happiness.
II. DON’T THINK ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK
I don’t mean by that that you should give a shit on other people’s opinion, but you should learn, which opinion matters and which one not. If you think too much about it is, just like in the first tip, a waste of time. There is a quote, which says ‘ care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner’
III. DO WHAT YOU LOVE ( WHILE WORKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT )
You should listen to yourself and do what you love. I have studied political science because my parents didn’t want me to take a year off to find myself and what I would like to do. So I just studied SOMETHING. I don’t say that political science brought me anything, but I could have find my right studies in the first place, if I could have had the time to find out, what I like and where my interests are. So I spent 3 years studying something, I didn’t even really want. Time is money! Also, this tip is the slogan of my blog, if you don’t do what you love, you will never be happy.
IV. BE YOURSELF
‘be yourself, everyone else is already taken’ – Oscar Wilde
If you try to be someone else, people will maybe like the person you are pretending to be, but you won’t be happy. You all surely know all the movies, where a guy or girl pretends to be someone else, so their crush will finally recognize them? And when they succeed they start to be happy but then they are so unhappy that they have to reveal their true self? Don’t be scared of being yourself, there are people who love you for who you are and will love you, everyone else who does not, are not worth it trying to stay in contact to them.
V. GET RID OF NEGATIVITY
I listed this as my last point after ‘be yourself’ because that is one point where I still suck doing this. By getting rid of negativity I mean especially people, who are trying to take you down or won’t let you shine. This sounds so harsh, but honestly, you don’t need people who make you feel sad and worthless. If you have friends who are like that, or even family members, you should limit your contact with them. I had a friend, who always tried to be better than me and tried to prove it and when she couldn’t she tried to let me look like an idiot for the things I was doing. You don’t need that negativity in your life.
I hope these tips will help you, only you are responsible for your happiness, it depends on how your attitude is!