I turned 25 last week and it is one year closer to 30. I didn’t know why so many women are afraid of this number but I think I kind of feel them now. There are so many things I want to reach in my life and haven’t reached yet. I know that it is never to late to do what you love and start to live your life – better late than never. I also do know that we shouldn’t define ourselves by our age, but there are some things I wish I would have known before or I wish I would have done before:
I. JUST START SOMEWHERE
If you are reading my blog from the very beginning, then you know that I’ve started a blog several years ago and couldn’t even write one blogpost because I didn’t know what to write about. And I didn’t even know where to start writing. I think that was because of my mindset, I somehow thought when I decide to start with one topic, I can’t go back and would be linked to that topic forever.
II. NOTHING’S CARVED IN STONE
And because of that mindset of me, I would tell my younger self this as well. That you can always change something if you don’t like it – and if you can’t change it, then you leave it. Regarding blogging, this never occured to me that I can just switch topics or leave one if I think, it doesn’t suit me anymore.
III. YOU DON’T NEED TO MAKE A COMMITMENT
Another thing which took me too long to realise is, that I always thought I had to fit into one specific category: Should I be the girlie girl or the skater girl? The cute and innocent girl or the cool kicking ass one? You know what? You can be anything you want and as I said before: Nothing’s carved in stone, so you can be the hell whatever you want each day – you don’t need to make a commitment to one thing.
IV. YOU ARE ENOUGH
From primary school until high school I always wanted to be part of something: A part of the cool kids, the cool girls or just fit in any group, but I never felt like I was one of them even if I became good friends with them. I of felt barred from the groups I was hanging out with and alone many times, but throughout the years I learned and realised that I like to spend time alone. I started to enjoy myself and do whatever I want to do – without the compulsion to fit into something. I still do feel sometimes like I’m not fitting somewhere, but that’s okay for me- because I know that I don’t have to.
V. LOVE AND BE YOURSELF
This is something which should be taught from the very first age that you should love yourself and accept yourself for who you are. I had to take the long way and I am still struggling with the part of loving myself because there are days where I can’t myself because of my lack of discipline – but life is always a process of learning and growing!
In the end, I can’t change what already happened, so that’s why this is all just a hypothetic speech to my 15-year old self. It would have been great if someone had taught me that while I was still 15, because during those young ages we can change things and habits easier. I will tell all those things to my kids then.
What would you tell your younger self?